I’m talking today, right now, reasons we need feminism. Some of these have links to different blog posts, others are going to be turned into blog posts but some just don’t need explanation. I didn’t even Google these, but just sat down and wrote what I think we need feminism to change- I’m sure there are plenty more.
1. Straight off the bat that feminists are seen as
2. Because it’s inappropriate for women to have strong opinions or political leanings. Seen and not heard, ladies. The very fact that I’m writing this blog post is offensive to people.
3. Unneccessarily gendered items, such as cans of Solo, packs of tissues, razors and toothbrushes that come in blues and pinks, with flowers or trucks.
4. Make up
5. Beauty is uncomfortable, and men don’t have to deal with that. Think heels, lingerie.
6. Girls are still asked if/who they’re dating over what they’re doing at school
7. There are less women in engineering, politics and science than teaching, cooking and acting
8. Incapable mothers are still chosen over capable fathers in custody battles because it is a woman’s job to raise a child, no matter how terrible she’s going to be at it or how much he really wants to
9. Girls are still judged by the length of their skirt, height of heels or depth of neckline
10. Slut shaming
11. Blaming the victim for the rape, because she didn’t scream, because she involuntarily orgasmed, because her skirt was too short, she was intoxicated, she was just in the wrong place at the wrong time
12. If a woman walks into a bar, she is to expect to be hit on [because she can’t just be ordering a drink like the man next to her]
13a. If a woman is groped in a bar, she shouldn’t have gone in anyway
13b. Refer to unnecessarily gendered items, but all beer and a lot of alcohol is advertised for men
13. Girls schools offer dance and drama over woodwork and computer studies [and vice versa]
14. An unmarried elderly woman is pitied while a man in her position is considered just not willing to be “tied down”
15. The idea marketed to men of being married [“last night of freedom”, “game over”, “the same sex every night, the same woman every morning” are just a few catch phrases] as compared to women [basically, it’s necessary, look for the perfect man. Side note: there is a perfect man.]
16. Sugar Daddy connotations vs. the connotations of being a “Cougar” [she’s gonna eat that young man alive].
17. Women are still expected to have children, raise families, clean the house, cook and satisfy her husband as well as have a job [why would any woman want a job as well as a career?]
18. When a woman has underage sex with a boy, it’s fine. When a man has underage sex with a girl, he’s a paedophile. [Based on the preconception that all men are sexual beings who always want it, while girls are always the victim.]
19. The feminine pixie cut.
20. Men going out with their daughters is less socially acceptable than women going out with their sons, for example to go shopping. Linked to
21. It’s the woman’s job to raise the kids. The man provides, the woman nurtures.
22. Women are still taught to live inside, and keep the house while the men are told to go outside and get their hands dirty gardening. The shed/garage is a man’s place [or, indeed, a man’s cave].
23. Women are still not allowed to preach in some churches
24. Religion still dictates gender inequality is okay. Women should be more modest than men, and stay quiet, because we were created not just differently but unequally [“if God wanted to make men and women equal, he would have just made men.” Reproduction would have been hilarious.]
25. That society suggests men are more sexual. Women lust, masturbate and watch porn less because we just don’t have these sexual feelings at all [and if we do, we should hide them]. Girls, cover up, but guys can go around without shirts on because of course we don’t feel anything at all.
26. A woman is still expected to change her last name to her husband’s
27. It is still common for the man to ask a girl’s father for permission to marry her, and for him to walk her down the aisle to “give her away”, not to mention pay for the wedding as a form of dowry.
28. Catcalling is still, if not accepted, not actively rejected. It is still rare for someone to stick up for a girl getting catcalled and still taught she should ignore it or be okay with it instead of doing something to stop it and teach the guys it’s not okay.
29. Being pretty will still help you in a job interview
30. Sexual harassment in the work place
31. The wage gap
32. No female celebrity will be seen publicly without make up
33. The gossip tabloids are still filled with crap about who people are dating and what they are wearing
34. Actresses are still not taken as seriously as their male counterparts. Don’t ask Scarlett Johnasen whether she wore underwear with her Black Widow costume, #askhermore.
35. Sport stars of both genders are still looked at for their bodies rather thantheir talents or acheivements and marketed to the opposite gender accordingly, with magazines and newspapers telling women whose single and what Michael Clarke’s wife was wearing rather than how much he scored.
36. The G.S.T. on pads and tampons
37. Girls are taught in sexual education that it is their responsibility not to get pregnant. We are shown how to apply a condom to a man’s penis and taught to carry one with us, because he mightn’t be, although he wants to have sex. The responsibility, rather than being mutual, is solely ours, because teenage boys just aren’t expected to stick around for an unwanted pregnancy while we have to.
38. Stigma towards women with tattoos compared to men with them
39. Think of all the words for promiscuous women- slut, slag, whore, bitch, trash- now think of all the ones for men- man whore? [Although you don’t need to say girl whore.] Playboy sounds kind of cute, actually.
40. Girls are taught we have something to prove.
41. “Grow a pair” compared to “you’re a pussy”. “Take it like a man” compared to “you hit/run/jump/fight/scream like a girl”. “Crying is for girls”. Side note: testicles are very sensitive. Vaginas push through monthly periods and usually childbirth.
42. Sewing and knitting stuff is aimed at women. Literally all of stores like Spotlight and Lincraft are just for women- there might be a man on the sign for balloons?
43. Sort of related to unneccesarily gendered items, stuff for one gender will cost less than for the other. Man’s facial cream cost more, whereas men’s underwear, socks, shoes, clothes and thongs will cost less.
44. Girls are still the supporting character, even in chick flicks. All of Gabriella’s songs had to do with Troy, all of Troy’s solos had to do with, well, himself.
45. We need to be rescued all the time? How come girls get the superpowers so little?
46. When the women do get a cool roll, it’s as the smart one when the man gets the strong one.
Eg: Harry Potter and Hermione Granger
Oliver Queen and Felicity Smoke
Derek Morgan and Penelope Garcia
Jace Whatever his last name is and Clary
Peter Parker and Gwen Stacey
47. It’s still uncomfortable? Awkard? Shameful? For a woman’s nipples to be seen, hence the uncomfortable, expensive world of bras.
48. Sex slavery [common in Australia too]
49. 1/3 women will be sexually abused or raped at least once in their lifetime
50. Women are nurses, men are doctors. Women are teachers, men are professors. All women should be cooks, men should aspire to be chefs.
51. Boys and girls can’t just be friends. No, someone has to want more.
52a. It’ll always be the girl who won’t just be happy being friends with benefits. Girls are always wanting romance, boys are always just thinking about sex. A beautiful double stereotype.
52. That women are still passing this on to the next generation. We are still teaching our kids this, refusing to break the cycle because
1) it’s too hard. We know, even subconsciously, that our girls will get bullied by her schoolmates, her lovers, her bosses, for being different, and we don’t want that for them, so we teach them to conform. We give them an easy route, and don’t change anything because we don’t want them to get hurt. We try ourselves, but the river always finds the easiest path to flow down. We may be brave, but stop the next generation, try to protect them.
2) We don’t want to. By we, I mean females or even society in general. We don’t want things to change, because, like always, we’re comfortable and scared. Where would we go without these stereotypes and barriers? Redefining our entire society will be hard, and so, let’s just avoid that and never get anywhere, hey?
So, feminists, stand up and do something. Did any of these resonate within you? Fight. Because the fight is not over.